Starting a New Life Chapter

A few years ago, CF started to take its toll on me. I kept getting sick, going on and off IVs, going in and out of the hospital. But through it all, I found a silver lining.

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Rich-DeNagel
Rich DeNagel
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I turned 47 the other day. Forty seven! Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would ever be this old. I knew I would make 20. I thought I might possibly make 30. I didn't think I had a chance for 40, and now I'm approaching 50. Fifty!?

Over the years, as I read and learned more about CF, I watched the average life span rise and rise. When I was born, in 1968, the median survival age was 16. For many, many years I straddled the median as it increased. Of course, no one ever made dire predictions to my face, but there was always a number looming in my head. I figured it would catch me someday. Today the median age of survival is in the early 40s, and a good friend of mine told me recently, “You are way past that now!” And now I realize the median age is just a CF statistic and does not mean anything about me, which is great.

I'm a member of numerous CF Facebook groups, and I love it when someone writes, “I am 16,” or 24, 28, 52, “and I am kicking CF's butt!” Every time I read those messages, I get this charge, this feeling of support, this energy to keep on fighting.

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To me, fighting means doing all of my treatments, taking all of my meds and doing my vest. It isn't always easy, and some days are much harder than others. But when I see that other CFers out there fighting, too, it helps motivate me to do the same.

My Darkest Days

However, CF is a progressive disease. We all remember friends who lost their fight. And especially as I age, there are many days when CF kicks my butt.

A few years ago, CF started to take its toll on me. I kept getting sick, going on and off IVs, going in and out of the hospital. I could not get a break. Every time I thought I was pulling out of a spate of illness, something new or worse would pop up. I felt defeated and depressed. No matter what I did I kept getting sick. I asked myself if it was the beginning of the end.

Everything came to a head about a year ago, when I developed terrible pneumonia in both my lungs. I was intubated and in the ICU for 2 weeks. I don't really remember much of that time, but I was lucky enough to wake up and get another chance.

Coming back from that bout of illness was not easy. I had to make a choice to change some of my expectations about my life.

I had to let go of things I wanted. My life changed in ways I did not know or expect. I had a lot less energy. I walked much slower than my friends.

Was I happy about all that? No way! But as my friends kept telling me, it was lemonade time! Life gave me lemons. What else was I going to do?

A Silver Lining

First, I had to stop working. I had been a high school teacher for many years, and I loved it. It was heartbreaking for me to walk away, but I knew I needed to put my health first. Continuing to work would do irreparable harm. I had seen too many of my friends continue to work until it was too late.

Second, I got to know my CF care team better than ever before. Let's be honest, we all know our doctors, nurses, social workers, and other health professionals very well. But I was more honest and compliant than I had been before. I made sure to tell them when I was tired or down. I pushed myself more when they suggested more treatments, even though going from twice a day to three times a day was tough. And we talked about it. I worked on the lines of communication. I was used to listening to my docs, taking what they said "under advisement," and then doing what I wanted. I started really following directions.

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But as days grew into weeks, I found I had a little too much time on my hands. I had stopped working, and I was getting bored. I had become a professional patient. I realized that if I was going to make it I had to find some meaning, some activity to occupy my time. If all I did was take care of my CF and only do treatments, clean my nebs and see doctors, I was going to lose my mind.

So one day I asked my CF doc if she needed any help around the clinic or if she knew of any volunteer opportunities I could take part in. From that small question, a door opened. She asked me to join a Quality Improvement Initiative Committee, then a clinical trial and then another committee. Once I was healthy enough, she suggested Pulmonary Rehab. Meaning and purpose starting coming back into my life. Suddenly I was busy. Days were turning into weeks and then months.

All these activities did not take away from the fact that my CF had progressed and that I need to take better care of myself. But they did give me a new purpose and drive in life. My life was not over, but a new and very different chapter had begun.

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Rich-DeNagel

Rich was diagnosed with cystic fibrosis in 1969 when he was 6 months old. He also had an older sister with CF. Rich is a tough fighter who resides in New York City, and looks forward to many more years fighting CF.

May 2019 -- We were deeply saddened to learn of Rich's passing. Rich opened his heart to the CF community through our blog. He will be missed by many.

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